Why is divorce mediation Taboo for many couples? The answer to this question is multi-faceted as many variables are present when making the big decision to Divorce, especially when children are involved and of course we can’t forget, the money factor! In my experience as a couples and intimacy therapist and coach, I find that couples who decide to get their own individual lawyers are scared of the unknown and bottom the line is, they are protecting themselves.
Over the years, my couples have expressed that they are scared of mediation because they may not being treated fairly, that theirspouse may manipulate the situation in their favor, or that they may not be able to get to see their children as often and the list goes on. The unfortunate part of this often very painful, time consuming, and expensive battle of divorce is that the couple and their children often end up suffering financially and emotionally during this process.
Since I am not a lawyer and I do not have the expertise to advise about the mediation process, I teamed up with powerhouse couple, Eric and Erica Epstein, of www.PeacefulSplit.com. Eric Epstein has been an attorney in New York and Florida for twenty-two years and is also a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family Law Mediator and Erica Epstein holds Masters degreesin Marriage and Family Therapy and Early Childhood Development and Education. I invited them on to my podcast,Taboo Talk Time with Dr. Eva, for an interview which is on Google Play:http://bit.ly/2wbqnIV and iTunes :http://apple.co/2vnYPil if you’d like to join our movement of breaking through societal norms, increasing awareness, and unhinging the Taboo!
Below I will share a short excerpt of the interview I had with attorney and mediator Eric Epstein, as he discusses the 5 C’s of Mediation:
“Why would a couples choose to divorce using a mediator?”
“I have what I call my 5 C’s for the benefits of mediation over divorcing with individual lawyers. The 1st one is, Control over the process and what that means is that when people choose to get a divorce and decide to go to the court to have the whole dispute resolved, the person that’s ultimately going to make the decision that’s going to affect their personal lives, their family’s life, their finances, their children is a man or women sitting in a black robe that maybe they meet once or twice for an hour. And when you go through mediation you have complete control over the process and it’s very empowering for couples to sit and know that their going to be in control of
If you’d like to listen to the entire interview, here is the link: http://bit.ly/2xjJpwW. Of course, as a Couples and
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Dr. Eva Brown PhD, Couples and Intimacy Therapist